Restore • Connect • Play
May 23 - 26, 2025 • Lake County, CA
400 new friends • 12 shared meals • 4 days • 3 nights • 3 sexy play spaces • 1 hell of a good time
Sexual Skills Playshops • Nature Hikes • Pool Parties • Movement Classes • Pure Magic
Music and Dancing!
Feel the vibes at our daytime pool parties. Join the sultry dance scene in the main play space at night. Enjoy downtempo grooves at the enormous hot tub at night. The 2024 Bonobo Retreat will feature live and electronic music from world-class performers and DJs including KR3TURE, ITAI, and more!
Experiences and Learning
Of course, you can party in one of our three play spaces. But there’s way more to the retreat than that! It will be full of playful experiences to help you connect with one another and deepen your knowledge of sexuality and relationships.
You can attend amazing playshops like Erotic Kissing, Hand Sex Grad School, Pegging 101, and more! Level up your relationship skills with classes like Navigating Partnerships at Play Parties. Go on an ecosexual nature hike, sing songs around the camp fire, get your body painted, let out a primal scream, or tell dirty stories at Bawdy Storytelling’s BawdySlam. You can even lead your own workshop, demo, or discussion if there’s a skill or experience you really want to share.
Or connect with other Bonobo members in your identity group at one of our special meetups for people of color, queer folks, older folks, younger folks, self-identified men, self-identified women, trans and nonbinary folks, or our sober friends.
World-Class Consent Culture
Bonobos know that consent doesn’t just keep bad things from happening – it makes connection better, stronger, and HOTTER. In Bonobo, we treat consent as a collaborative process where every participant prioritizes each other’s safety, wellbeing, and pleasure. We celebrate boundaries as much as yeses, and we treat sexy gatherings like this as “High Possibility, Low Expectation” spaces. We hold all of our members and participants accountable to our consent and accountability policies. That’s why every retreat attendee must become a Bonobo Network member and complete our orientation process.
Come PLAY with us!
Are you ready to join a weekend of deep connection, learning, and excitement?
Just follow these instructions!
We want you to experience Play for yourself. Ready to take the plunge? To attend the retreat:
Step 1: Apply! This application ensures that our members share our values and core perspectives.
Step 2: Become a member. We are a paid membership community. We have a wide variety of options.
Step 3: Complete our orientation. The orientation videos will help you understand our culture and values, clarify shared expectations, and integrate smoothly into the community.
Step 4: Purchase your ticket!
Who we are
Hi! We're William and Misha, and we welcome you to Bonobo Network!
In short, we help people with sex-positive values and non-monogamous leanings find real learning, support, and connection with others who value consent, empathy, accountability, inclusion, and interdependence. We hope we've built a community where your whole being can find expression, not just the parts you can share on social media or at the office. Our identity as a community is rooted in deeply-considered principles and solid values. If this sounds like your cup of tea, you just might be a Bonobo. And you may have found your community.
Bonobo Network is a private membership organization that creates real community for those of us who recognize that monogamy isn't the best option for everyone and that pleasure comes in many different packages.
We throw parties. We facilitate workshops. We host retreats. We organize potlucks, happy hours, discussion groups, online mixers, interviews, and so much more.
Testimonials
“Some of my biggest breakthroughs in my old programming around sexuality have been dismantled at the retreats. Because of this, Bonobo’s retreats have held a special place in my heart for supporting my development as a more open sexual being.”
— JA, woman, 42 years old
“Thank you for the sound healings, the yoga, the massages, the cuddles, the butt rubs, the make out sessions, the conversations and most of all, for the loving me as I am and reminding me, with your words, your actions, and your being that I am enough and that I am loved.”
— AF, woman, 39
That was fun. And hard. And reflective. Not necessarily in equal measures but all equally necessary.
— MD, man, 46