Workshops & Activities
We love learning together…
An important part of being a Bonobo is actively engaging in learning and personal growth related to sexuality and relationships. Check out this year’s incredible selection of workshops and experiences. It’ll be informative and FUN!
Workshop Lineup
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Oral Sex Grad School
With Reid Mihalko (he/him)
Would you like to take your current craft & skills to Jedi levels? Want to ask those nagging questions and get advanced-level tips and tricks? Looking for an “excuse” to practice giving & receiving oral sex that leave your loved ones stammering, “h-h-How did you do THAT?!”
Let Reid Mihalko be your Head Dean (see what he did there?!) and give you your PhD in oral so YOU can give and/or receive mind-blowing makeout sessions, blowjobs, cunnilingus, and analingus that leave YOU and your lovers feeling satisfied, confident, and glowing with appreciation! This class will include LIVE demonstrations as well as time for folks to practice on toys or with each other! Bring a Bonobo Buddy to practice with!
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What Had Happened Was... Reflections on Identity
With Marlon Williams (he/him)
In this story telling based workshop participants will have the opportunity to share stories around identity and build community by reflecting on the diverse journeys we each have taken to arrive at this moment based on our race, gender, sexual orientation, family background, ability and all the intersectional elements that make us uniquely who we are.
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Your Living Love Life
With Dvorit Mausner (she/her)
What if your love life had a body of its own? In this creative, interactive workshop, you’ll imagine your non-monogamous relationship system in a new way: as a living, breathing entity. Is it a multi-tentacled octopus? A winged creature in flight? A sprawling jungle?
Through guided visualization and drawing, you’ll imagine what makes your love life strong, what needs care, and how to support the unique ecosystem of your connections. Whether you have no partners, many, or a fluid constellation, this session will help you clarify how to nourish your relationships so that you flourish in them. Come solo or as polycules, and no artistic skills are required—just a playful attitude to explore a fresh perspective on your love and sex life.
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Push, Pull, Squeeze – Unlocking Your Pelvic Floor
With April Curtis (she/her)
Your pelvic floor muscles are the secret to better orgasms, deeper arousal, and improved sexual health—but are you using them to their full potential? In this fun, fully clothed workshop, April will guide you through exercises to activate and strengthen your pelvic floor, helping you experience more pleasure, improve your stamina, and ease discomfort.
What You’ll Learn:
• How to find, activate, and strengthen your pelvic floor
• Techniques to enhance pleasure and sensitivity
• Simple movement exercises to improve pelvic floor coordination
• Positions and adjustments to reduce pain and increase pleasure
Expect live demonstrations, interactive discussions, and practical take-home techniques to explore on your own or with a partner.
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Push, Pull, Squeeze & Squirt – Advanced Pelvic Floor Play
With April Curtis (she/her)
Pre-requisite: Class 1: Push, Pull, SqueezeReady to take things to the next level? This workshop builds on the foundations of pelvic floor awareness and explores how these muscles contribute to squirting, multiple orgasms, and ejaculatory control. With live, explicit demonstrations, Reid and April will break down key techniques in a fun, respectful, and shame-free space.
What You’ll Learn:
• Hand, finger, and toy techniques to encourage squirting
• How to increase pleasure and multiple orgasms through pelvic control
• Ejaculatory control techniques, including edging and non-ejaculatory orgasm
• Common mistakes to avoid and how to work with different bodies
This is a fully clothed, observation-based class with live explicit demonstrations. Attendees are encouraged to ask questions, take notes, and honor their own comfort levels throughout the experience.
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How to Take Charge in Bed: Erotic Dominance for Everybody
With Anton (he/him) & Ann (she/her)
Erotic dominance isn’t just for the BDSM crowd. Many people fantasize about being ordered to please their partner exactly as they demand, go weak in the knees when their lover grasps them by the hair, or tremble with anticipation when “Be naked when I get home,” appears in their text messages.Being the one to take control is a rush! You get to call the shots, push your lover around, and have them adore you for it.
But taking charge in the bedroom can be a tricky dance. Where do you find the confidence to assume control? What’s the line between being romantically commanding and being a pushy jerk? How do you keep coming up with fresh ideas for what to do with your partner once they’re breathlessly awaiting your next command?
This workshop has the answers. Your facilitators, Ann and Anton, regularly teach in the BDSM community, but have geared this program for folks who want to enjoy taking a more commanding role in the bedroom without the whips & chains trappings of BDSM.
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*Really* Dirty Talk: The Perverse Allure of Verbal Degradation
With Anton (he/him) & Ann (she/her)
Sometimes people want you to say terrible things to them when they're turned on. Perhaps you want that for yourself!Often the words that land the hottest also feel scary, or delicate.
This workshop explores how to fulfill desires for degradation in ways that leave everyone involved feeling good about themselves, their partners and their relationships. We'll cover preparing a solid container in advance, tools for creating a memorable experience during, and strategies for reconnection afterward; and offer ideas for both degradees and degraders.
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Speed Friending
With Emma (she/her) and Fin (he/him)
Break the ice & make tons of new friends through guided small-group convos!We always start with consent and safety housekeeping and then dive into the action!
We put everyone in small groups of 4 people and then ask a question like "What's something you've always wanted to try, but haven't? What's holding you back?" You talk about it for 6 minutes and then we scramble the groups and ask a new question.
You'll laugh, you might even cry, and by the end you'll have met between 30-50 new people that you can continue building friendships and connections with all weekend!
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Pussy Waffles Coffee
With Misha Bonaventura (she/her)
Pussy Waffles Coffee is a truly delicious dance party for femme centered whimsical activism, radical pleasure, and collective creativity.
We dance, we serve pussy shaped waffles, and we make wishes into the pussy portal.
Brought to you by Misha Bonaventura (aka Waffle Daddy, CEO & One Job). You can follow along with the shenanigans and join the growing Clitorati by clicking this link. -
Neurodivergent Love and Sexuality
With Dr. Aly Ash (she/her) and Sebastian Clarke (he/him)
For neurodivergent individuals, cultivating intimacy often requires navigating unique dynamics. From differences in sensory processing to communication styles to emotional regulation, intimacy often takes on new layers of complexity.We will share skills, tools, and practices that can help to empower neurodivergent folks to claim their needs, desires, and pleasure.
This workshop is ideal for people with ADHD and autistic folks (all neurotypes welcome), as well as their partners and allies.
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Spicy Truth or Dare
With Marcia Baczynski (she/her)
Tell the truth: Do you dare to play this sophisticated take on the classic game of Truth or Dare? After a brief discussion of what makes for great truths and even greater dares, we’ll collaboratively create a Truth or Dare game that mixes tops and bottoms, cuddle sluts and kinksters, voyeurs and exhibitionists, and create an atmosphere of anticipation and excitement.
With each draw of a card, you'll find yourself faced with a choice between revealing your hidden truths or embracing saucy dares that push the boundaries of conventional fun. This is more than just a game – it's an opportunity to meet new friends, to build trust through vulnerability, and to create memories that will leave you grinning with delight.
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Communicate Desire: Pathways to Connection and Sensuality
With Ariel Vegosen (aka: Trixie Lamonte)
This workshop is an opportunity to learn communication skills around desire, connect with people, and drop deep into your own sensuality. Together we will create a sacred container for exploration. This is a highly interactive workshop with fun games, and a chance to get to know ourselves and each other even better.
This workshop will increase self expression, ability to connect with others, and creativity. Activities include: communication skill training, interactive games, & trust building.
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Stepping Into Your Hottest Self: How to Feel Sexy & Confident at a Play Party
With Ariel Vegosen (aka: Trixie Lamonte)
Come learn from play party sexpert and founder of Gender Blender, Ariel Vegosen (Trixie Lamonte), how to embrace your sexy hottest self! This will be a super fun, interactive workshop in which you will get to learn new skills and practice what it feels like to be confident and owning your desire.
This playshop will increase your ability to flirt, express your desire, own your yes and your no, and be confident in all that you are. Everyone of all backgrounds from sexperts to newbies has something to learn at this workshop. Be ready to be empowered and have fun!
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Sensual Embodiment: Gentle Arrival Flow
With Laura Berry (she/her)
This 1-hour class will help guests arrive to the retreat and get grounded in their body. It will be focused on slow, flowing movement, embodiment practices, breathwork, and some activation. Take some time to drop into the body, breathe, and connect to our inner sensations - find our inner fuck yes. This is the time to arrive and awaken embodiment —slowly, deeply, consciously. -
Sacred Touch: A Sensual Massage Workshop for Deep Connection
With Laura Berry (she/her)
Explore the power of touch in this guided sensual massage workshop designed to deepen connection and intimacy with your partner.
Learn techniques to create relaxation, pleasure and presence through intentional hands on practice.
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Shake and Play: Sexy Dance Party
With Laura Berry (she/her)
This class is a high energy booty dance party that blends easy to follow choreography with playful moves designed to awaken confidence, ignite sensuality, and get our hearts pumping. No dance experience needed.
More Coming Soon
Be sure to check back as we continue to add more workshops, activities, and facilitators!
Our Facilitators
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Reid Mihalko
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Marlon Williams
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Dvorit Mausner
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April Curtis
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Anton & Ann Fulmen
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Emma & Fin
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Misha Bonaventura
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Dr. Aly & Seb
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Marcia Baczynski
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Ariel Vegosen (Trixie Lamonte)
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Laura Berry